Why I Hate Social Media

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I hate social media. No really I do. And as I’m saying this I’m currently switching back & forth from Twitter to Instagram & obsessively planning my wedding on Pinterest, which let’s get real, won’t happen until I trick some poor fool into marrying me. And I hate it. I hate how we feel the need to constantly update our statuses & post that new picture of our shoes & Starbucks just so everyone can see how “great” our lives are. I don’t know when the cultural shift happened because you don’t see our parents or grandparents talking about how many “likes” they have or who their “MCM” is this week. Maybe it’s because we have so much technology, we feel like we have to use it all to keep up with what’s “in.” I feel like we are letting all this technology, in a sense, control our lives. I see it all the time. I see couples on dates, sitting across from each other, too busy looking at their phones to even pay attention to their significant other. I see girls complaining about how they weren’t someone’s Woman Crush Wednesday this week & therefore believe that no one likes them. I see the Snapchats where people are making fun of how someone looks or what they are doing. I see that subtweet complaining about a person or your relationship or work instead of physically talking to that person & fixing the problem. I see people taking pictures or videos of a certain event & they’re too busy trying to get the perfect angle or lighting or pose or filter to even actually enjoy the moment. And I don’t understand it. Honestly. I don’t understand why we are so caught up in our online lives. We are too busy trying to portray this “perfect” image of ourselves on Facebook & Twitter & Instagram, that we are letting our real lives slip by. We are missing the moments that should be captured. We are so caught up in maintaining our image that we forget what really matters. What really matters are the connections you have in your real life because the people who love you, who really love you, are not going to care about how many likes you get or how many followers you have. They care about the person you are & the person you are going to become. I truly hope that by the time I have kids that social media has reached it’s downfall because I don’t want my son or daughter thinking that the sweetest gestures they deserve are a #ManCandyMonday or #WomanCrushWednesday. I don’t want them to think that their self worth is determined by how many likes they get on that picture & how many followers they have. I don’t want them thinking that an “I love you” posted on their Facebook wall is the only time that they should hear those three little words. I dream of a world where our connections with the people in our daily world are the only connections that matter. I dream of a world where we are so busy enjoying the little moments in life to even think about pulling out our phones to update our status. I dream of a world where someone will take their time to tell you they love you & it will be said in such a special way that you have no doubt that they mean it. I dream of a world where we all realize that life will slip by before we know it. All we have is now. And it’s our job to make the most of it. I don’t know about you but when I’m dying & I look back on my life, I don’t want any regrets. I want to be able to say that I loved those around me as much as I could. I want to have actual memories of the people & events in my life, not pictures & videos to look at.

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